Comments on: in which i recognize that my daughter is not, after all, a full grown person http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/ only boring people get bored Sat, 05 Jul 2008 02:38:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: psumommy http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-952 psumommy Thu, 08 May 2008 16:53:19 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-952 Ah, my apologizes to Drawdawn, both for making the assumption and for misspelling her name! I'm sorry! PREGNANCY MADE ME DO IT! You'd think that having more kids would make me more patient, but I'm ashamed to admit that no, it just makes me more patient with the younger ones. Because an 18-month-old's tantrum is so freaking CUTE and ADORABLE compared to the snotty, sassing, deciding-to-ignore-the-rules-"because-I-felt-like-it" attitude of the 6-year-old. And throw in there that perhaps what might be construed as 'patient' is also more like 'entirely too exhausted to notice and/or care' (except in important instances, of course, like limbs suddenly gone missing or a 3-year-old thinking it's hilarious to repeatedly whack his little brother on the head with a bat). Oh, and to throw in here...I had my first at 24. Definitely didn't have more patience. I miss wine....*sigh* Just 16ish more months until I can imbibe again! Ah, my apologizes to Drawdawn, both for making the assumption and for misspelling her name! I’m sorry! PREGNANCY MADE ME DO IT!

You’d think that having more kids would make me more patient, but I’m ashamed to admit that no, it just makes me more patient with the younger ones. Because an 18-month-old’s tantrum is so freaking CUTE and ADORABLE compared to the snotty, sassing, deciding-to-ignore-the-rules-”because-I-felt-like-it” attitude of the 6-year-old. And throw in there that perhaps what might be construed as ‘patient’ is also more like ‘entirely too exhausted to notice and/or care’ (except in important instances, of course, like limbs suddenly gone missing or a 3-year-old thinking it’s hilarious to repeatedly whack his little brother on the head with a bat).

Oh, and to throw in here…I had my first at 24. Definitely didn’t have more patience.

I miss wine….*sigh* Just 16ish more months until I can imbibe again!

]]> By: honestyrain http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-948 honestyrain Thu, 08 May 2008 02:38:39 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-948 psumommy, hijack away! a little conversation in the comments section is perfectly within code. and by the way, drawdawn is also on her fourth. you two, more patience in your little fingers than i have in my whole body. i mean, you must have - FOUR KIDS??? i don't think you're supposed to start drinking wine at 8am and i'd need to with that many kids hanging around. the shoutfree project would be <em>the let's make it til bed without packing them all up and shoving them out the front door project</em>. now, mind you, if i'd started having them at an earlier age i'd have had four. because for some reason i picture having been more patient in my twenties. delusions, me thinks. psumommy, hijack away! a little conversation in the comments section is perfectly within code. and by the way, drawdawn is also on her fourth. you two, more patience in your little fingers than i have in my whole body. i mean, you must have - FOUR KIDS??? i don’t think you’re supposed to start drinking wine at 8am and i’d need to with that many kids hanging around. the shoutfree project would be the let’s make it til bed without packing them all up and shoving them out the front door project.

now, mind you, if i’d started having them at an earlier age i’d have had four. because for some reason i picture having been more patient in my twenties. delusions, me thinks.

]]> By: psumommy http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-946 psumommy Wed, 07 May 2008 23:38:18 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-946 Drawndawn (sorry honestyrain, may I hijack your comments section for a minute?)- If it makes you feel any better...the kids don't seem to remember. Or even notice, while it's happening, to tell you the truth! I'm on my 4th pregnancy here, and trust me, the cranky cannot be stopped. It isn't so much an excuse as an explanation, and I for one HATE using pregnancy as an excuse (except, maybe in the first trimester to stop going to the gym because I can't peel myself off of the couch). Ok, I'm done- again, sorry honestyrain! Drawndawn (sorry honestyrain, may I hijack your comments section for a minute?)- If it makes you feel any better…the kids don’t seem to remember. Or even notice, while it’s happening, to tell you the truth! I’m on my 4th pregnancy here, and trust me, the cranky cannot be stopped. It isn’t so much an excuse as an explanation, and I for one HATE using pregnancy as an excuse (except, maybe in the first trimester to stop going to the gym because I can’t peel myself off of the couch).

Ok, I’m done- again, sorry honestyrain!

]]> By: honesty*rain » dammit! i almost made it!!! http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-941 honesty*rain » dammit! i almost made it!!! Tue, 06 May 2008 00:00:03 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-941 [...] one of the shoutfree project was going so well! I managed to go all day without shouting at my children despite the fact that [...] […] one of the shoutfree project was going so well! I managed to go all day without shouting at my children despite the fact that […]

]]> By: sarah http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-940 sarah Mon, 05 May 2008 12:50:48 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-940 I, too, am trying to shout less. There's something about almost-four-year-old behaviour, especially the not-listening-when-asked-seventeen-times-in-a-pleasant-tone that really brings out the shouting, though. I, too, am trying to shout less. There’s something about almost-four-year-old behaviour, especially the not-listening-when-asked-seventeen-times-in-a-pleasant-tone that really brings out the shouting, though.

]]> By: Peaches http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-938 Peaches Mon, 05 May 2008 04:27:07 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-938 I was shouted at it seemed like constantly by my dad growing up. I did not marry a shouter. In fact, he is infuriating in his un-shoutiness. He would rather leave the house than shout. I try really hard not to shout because I know what it can do to a kid. But we all slip - sometimes. All we can do is try not to shout the next time. I'm sure you're not really an all-the-time shouter, but even when you sometimes shout I'm also sure you feel really bad about it. This is a good goal. Stick with it. I was shouted at it seemed like constantly by my dad growing up. I did not marry a shouter. In fact, he is infuriating in his un-shoutiness. He would rather leave the house than shout. I try really hard not to shout because I know what it can do to a kid. But we all slip - sometimes. All we can do is try not to shout the next time. I’m sure you’re not really an all-the-time shouter, but even when you sometimes shout I’m also sure you feel really bad about it. This is a good goal. Stick with it.

]]> By: catherine http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-937 catherine Mon, 05 May 2008 02:57:41 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-937 I'm not a shouter, which I guess I learned at some point in order to be a teacher, because I would get fired if I shouted at other people's kids, you know? But I certainly share the frustration, especially of giving directions that are ignored. That drives me crazy. I’m not a shouter, which I guess I learned at some point in order to be a teacher, because I would get fired if I shouted at other people’s kids, you know? But I certainly share the frustration, especially of giving directions that are ignored. That drives me crazy.

]]> By: drawdawn http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-936 drawdawn Mon, 05 May 2008 02:41:25 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-936 oh my - I bet I could do way better here too - when not pregnant. I hate using pregnancy as an excuse to be bitchy but dammit it's true and I hate it. I don't want my last time being pregnant remembered as the time mommy was evil! I'm gonna do my best to join in even with these hormones! Maybe I'll try that whispering thing..... can't hurt! oh my - I bet I could do way better here too - when not pregnant. I hate using pregnancy as an excuse to be bitchy but dammit it’s true and I hate it. I don’t want my last time being pregnant remembered as the time mommy was evil! I’m gonna do my best to join in even with these hormones! Maybe I’ll try that whispering thing….. can’t hurt!

]]> By: psumommy http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-935 psumommy Mon, 05 May 2008 00:04:47 +0000 http://honestyrain.com/index.php/2008/05/04/in-which-i-recognize-that-my-daughter-is-not-after-all-a-full-grown-person/#comment-935 When I'm not pregnant, I do this. I'm a HUGE yeller (which is weird because I was a very quiet person up until my first turned about 3 years old). And I personally have found that whispering works WAY better than yelling. I'll join you about mid-September, k? Because I'm just entirely too realistic to think I can do it right now. But good luck to you- it really does make a noticable difference! When I’m not pregnant, I do this. I’m a HUGE yeller (which is weird because I was a very quiet person up until my first turned about 3 years old). And I personally have found that whispering works WAY better than yelling. I’ll join you about mid-September, k? Because I’m just entirely too realistic to think I can do it right now. But good luck to you- it really does make a noticable difference!

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